No, but I don't promise to either. It's not like I'd say "Ok I won't tell Daddy!" and then tell him. Although nothing really comes to mind that they wouldn't want both of us to know anyway.

Children, especially of a young age, shouldn't be keeping secrets...it's not a good precedent to start. They should feel comfortable to tell their parents anything! I would have my little one's keep surprises...which mean we don't tell until a specified amount of time but never secrets!

that's a good idea "surprises" instead of secrets.

- when i was little my mom told me that whenever someone told them a secret and especially not to tell the mother, that's when i had to run and tell her w/o anyone knowing that i told her.

i guess that's what started the very open relationship my mom and i now have. i used to and still do share everything with her.

The ONLY things I keep "secret" from my hubby are when the kids come and tell me something like say "I've got a girlfriend, but don't tell Dad, he'll tease me!" or obviously gifts we're getting for him or surprises.

IN the case of a girlfriend, I encourage the kids to tell my husband themselves. If it were something SERIOUS, like the kids saying they were having SEX with their girlfriends, that's different. But if they came to me because they just wanted to share and ask me to be quiet, I would but again, I would encourage THEM to tell him themselves.

yes. things like this; a "b" on a math test is the end of the freaking world to my husband so we don't talk about anything less than an "a" to him it just makes life eaiser.

it depends if it were life threatening or something but if it is petty, sometimes i may, they are still to young to have secrets

imcs... that's really nice to know. i think your mom is very smart!

my parents never kept secrets from each other, i know that because i'd hear them talking in bed when the lights were out

but now, if i'm upset about something and confide in my mom as a friend, she won't tell my dad unless i say its okay...but i always say its okay

imcs - good point, re: your mother's comment...that IS the most important time for a child to run and tell for sure!

My son doesn't really talk yet, but I think it would depend on what the secret was. If it was petty (ie: a crush or a "B" on a test) then I would keep it to myself and if it was something serious like he got suspended at school or was having sex I wouldn't tell him that I would keep it from his father. I would let him know that serious things like that need to be discussed as a family.

I would say it is on a need-to-know basis. Stuff like a cookie, I would probably feel okay about keeping a secret.
But how much I spent on her for clothes or a toy, lets hope she keeps the secret from daddy.